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This podcast is for LDS women with a spouse addicted to pornography. I am Jolene Winn and I am an active member of the LDS faith, a certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School, and the wife of a wonderful man who was once addicted to pornography. I am now on a mission to go find other women who are in the same situation. Women who are struggling to address emotions and thoughts they've never had to face. Women who want to understand their situation, who want to love their husband like ...
 
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Today I have my favorite guest (My husband Rob) joining me and going through some of the most frequently asked questions we get about his addiction and his recovery. He talks about what helped him the most, how he sees life differently now, and what he did to completely recover. Plus, there are a few great announcements you won't want to miss!…
 
Do you feel like you are just going through the motions? Like you are meant to have a life that is more than what you have but you don't know how to get it? I have the answer for you today! Join me as I talk about the way to get the life that you want and HOW to create it. It's not a secret. It just takes a little focus and some intentionality. It'…
 
Connecting with your spouse when he's addicted to pornography and you wish he weren't isn't easy. And learning how to communicate in that framework isn't easy. That is why I am so excited to bring you this conversation I had with Sam Tielemans! Sam is a licensed marriage and family therapist and works specifically with couples who are working to co…
 
We tend to not deal with our emotions. But the problem with this is that then we store them. And we compartmentalize them, thinking that if they look neat and tidy, then we will deal with them later (Or maybe we won't have to). But, eventually, if you don't deal with your emotions, you run out of storage. Just like your email account, you have a ce…
 
Want to know the secret to actually accomplishing all of your resolutions for 2022? Here it is: you've been doing it all backwards so far. Today I am going to explain a concept to you called Be Do Have. And it is going to completely change how you think about the way you approach your life and your goals. We usually approach life with the attitude …
 
Where does God fit in to all of this? To me, it's like asking where Jesus fits into Christmas. The answer is the same: He is the reason for all of it. Join me today as I discuss how God fits in and how the miracles we want may not be the miracles we are getting...and expecting certain miracles might make us miss the ones we have. Merry Christmas, y…
 
Just like an addict follows a physical addiction cycle, as the porn addict's wife, we often follow an emotional addiction cycle right along with it. If you feel like you are constantly "triggered" by his addiction and don't know how to get out of it, this is for you. In this episode I break down the cycle AND how to break it! Join me for my FREE 3 …
 
I am so thrilled to bring you this interview I did with Brock Bevell! He is a retired police officer who struggled with an opioid addiction and a pornography addiction and he now helps other men conquer their own addictions! In this episode, he and I sit down and he gives an inside look at pornography addiction from the point of view of the addict …
 
I often hear, "I'm broken". And, once upon a time, I felt that way too. But it's not true. Today I am going to show you why it's so important to change that thought and offer you a new one-one that has been extremely powerful for me. This thought helped me open up the future so that I could see that there was possibility and hope even during my hus…
 
Want to know the key to actually creating the life you want instead of reacting to it? Step 1: Create Space. Today I am going to tell you exactly what this means, why it's so important, the beliefs you need to adopt to make it happen AND how to actually create those needed beliefs! This is not life coaching 101. This is the next level. This is taki…
 
Do you ever find yourself overreacting? Exploding about something you aren't even that upset about, it's just the last thing to set you off? We all do it. This is what happens when you suppress your emotions-they often transfer to something else. In this episode I'm going to explain what this is, why it happens, and how to stop doing it. If you wan…
 
Caller Question: "I am in the process of filing for divorce. I feel it was the right decision, however now that Have been out of the situation that caused a nervous system overload, and as the hurt caused is starting to fade, I am more clearly able to see my role/issues/shortcomings I played a role in in the marriage (critical, expecting him to liv…
 
Not only is it important to become aware of our feelings, its important to become aware of the thoughts we have ABOUT our feelings. The way you approach your emotions can radically alter the way you experience them. On the podcast today I am going to go over some very common thoughts that my clients have about emotions and offer you some alternativ…
 
Caller Question: " In sex addiction, can you and your partner's attachment style be mislabeled? I have several women that I know that think they are "avoidant" because they are rejecting their husband's external validation seeking through sex. Is addiction usually avoidant attachment?" We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question …
 
Let's say you want to trust your husband again-how do you do it? Today I'm going to offer a new concept to you: conscious trust. We often think that trust is something that is earned, and that is felt based on the actions of others. But I want to counter that today with another option-one that doesn't leave you at the mercy of someone else's decisi…
 
Buffering is anything that we do to distract ourselves from how we are feeling. It is the buffer we place between ourselves and our emotions. In many cases, these buffers look like scrolling Instagram, or texting, or playing video games. Other times, these buffers are concentrated, false pleasures that mimic natural pleasures, like pornography and …
 
Caller Question: "My husband just got back from your Rising Son conference and it’s feeling like he’s changing and becoming the man I’ve always known he could become. The problem is now that he’s taking his place in our family I am losing my place as the strong steady lead of our family. I honestly don’t know where I fit. So my question is 2 fold, …
 
My daughter broke her arm and had to have surgery this weekend: unexpected. And as I was spending countless hours in various hospitals, I began to look at the way our brain responds to unexpected circumstances (for example, a husband's pornography addiction). In this episode, I break down a few of the ways our brain responds and how to combat it wh…
 
Caller Question: "What is the best way to handle a relapse, both for the person struggling with addiction and for their partner? What is the best way to move forward?" We'd love to have you as a guest. You can submit your question and have a real and honest conversation with 2 experienced therapists on realtalkrecovery.com. Tap here to listen on Ap…
 
Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversa…
 
Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past. She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversa…
 
Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to live boldly with compassion & forgiveness while being boundaried & free from the past.She is an advocate for women who want to live a life full of adventure & freedom. Come listen to her perspectives while she has conversat…
 
Overcoming beliefs is a simple, 5 step process. Not easy. But simple. And when you learn how to apply it to any belief (including the one we all have of "I am not enough", it is life changing. In this episode I am breaking down that 5 step process that I teach in my coaching program and illustrating how it works with the example of this belief. I a…
 
As a follow up to the most recent episode, here is a conversation I had with my husband about the relationship between pornography addiction and sex. He breaks down his side of how they are not the same, how he experienced them during his addiction, and how he came to understand the difference between the two. We talk about how it affected us sexua…
 
Buckle up, ladies, this is a good one. It's very common for you to think that your husband's pornography addiction is about you. But today I'm going to tell you WHY you think that and WHY it's not true. Take some notes and be sure to subscribe to the podcast because there will be a follow up bonus episode with my husband about this very topic that …
 
Caller: Hi! Betrayed partner here (porn addiction). I'm a new listener & I just listened to E58-is it ok to be attracted to more than 1 person. I have to say that coming from the betrayed partner's perspective, what was said & talking about the "3 second rule" is terrifying! For a lot of us, our partners could only have sex with us BECAUSE they had…
 
Trusting ourselves is a challenge as it denotes that we know who we are inside despite expectations around us. Yoga Therapist and betrayal trauma body expert, Sariah Bastian joins Coby to discuss the importance of trusting ourselves and how to do it. Sariah Bastian can be reached HERE You can follow her on IG HERE Want to be on an episode with Coby…
 
Ellie is my youngest of two daughters. She is my fiery redhead who teaches me to have more empathy, more love & how to do my makeup! She is would take over this podcast if I let her, so we may have more Ellie in our future. Ashlynn Mitchell kicks divorce & betrayal in the teeth. With her real world example of what’s possible after betrayal & how to…
 
I don't feel like i have a really clear question to ask, i've just been in limbo for 3 years. Knowing God will bring me and my spouse back together and it happening feel like two alien forces working against eachother. As my counselor says, "i am the only one who can determine how long I can live this way." After 3 years of separation, i would say …
 
Over the years I have found that there are 3 main keys that, if developed, will help you move forward from your husband's porn addiction faster than anything else. The best news is that each of these are internal characteristics that YOU can develop and they are completely free! So join me today as I discuss what they are and why they are so crucia…
 
I am SO excited to bring you a conversation I had with my client Monica! She was gracious and honest and open and is sharing what her experience was like finding out about her husband's pornography addiction, how she and I came to work together, her journey with therapy, and the biggest hurdles she struggled to overcome regarding her husband's addi…
 
Candice is a Master's level psychologist, and has worked in jail and prison settings as well as in crisis work too (doing assessments at hospitals for people whom are in a mental health crisis of some kind). She has experience working with suicidal ideation, depression, anxiety and trauma. She recently started her own practice in June. She's a sing…
 
"I loved the Podcast I listened to on Boundaries. So much great info, tools and principles discussed. I appreciated the podcast because of the difficulty I had with a group my wife got involved in that did a lot of the things you talked about and then some. I'm willing to bet they've destroyed more families that they have actually helped. They brok…
 
BenJoe joins Coby to discuss the emotions that come along with moving a family from El Salvador back to the US after 11 years. Having 5 kids and lots of professional and ecclesiastical responsibilities, BenJoe shares how he has navigated such a transition as a parent, partner, professional and individual. Ben is the COO of an international call age…
 
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