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Think Queerly is a thought leadership podcast by Darren Stehle that cultivates inclusion, understanding, and social evolution for a more accepting, equitable, and humane world. Darren explores LGBTQ2S+ history, dissects social and political issues, and speaks with queer leaders who are making a difference. As a Mind-Mastery Coach, Darren empowers LGBTQ+ creators and change-makers with their self-mastery to accomplish their goals, create a life they love and make a difference in the process.
Ideation is the formation of ideas or concepts. IDEA is an acronym for Insight, Direction, and Emotional Alignment. What makes one idea better than another? If you're a queer creator or change-maker, you know a single idea has the power to change everything — your success, a creative project, or the world. Using neuroscience and transformational practices, I help you get insight so you can focus on the strategies that are in alignment with what motivates you and what you want to accomplish. ...
In this re-cast of the inaugural episode of the Queering Self-Mastery Podcast, I explain, The difference between the Think Queerly Podcast and Queerly Self-Mastery My reasons for creating a new Substack newsletter. What I mean by 'queering self-mastery.' Why you should subscribe and how Queering Self-Mastery will make a transformational difference …
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Interview with Michelle Douglas, Executive Director, LGBT Purge Fund
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We start at the very beginning: why she decided to join the Canadian Military. Douglas shares her story of what that was like, falling in love with another woman in her unit for the first time, being honourably discharged, and what happened after. Ironically, Douglas worked for the Canadian Department of Justice for many years, while working in adv…
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Ever Feel Challenged to Live an Inspired Queer Life?
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For once, I'm the one being asked the questions! Enjoy this re-cast of the podcast, 40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk, hosted by Rick Clemons. "Ever feel challenged to live an inspired queer life? Feeling aimless and not sure what is next? Fellow Queer coach Darren Stehle challenges us to take a deeper step into self-mastery, ideation, and the journey of …
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Without Core Values, You Won’t Know What You Stand For or How to Live with Integrity
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Without values, it’s challenging to create a long-term life plan. If you don’t know what’s most important to you, you can’t make choices based on integrity. Values are the compass that keeps you on the path to accomplishing your most meaningful goals and dreams. When you know what’s essential and meaningful, you can skillfully respond with choices …
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What’s Wrong With Me? Here’s a Better Question to Ask Yourself.
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Self-talk that creates self-judgement, comparison, and shame is not self-empowering. It’s downright unhealthy and damaging to your self-esteem! If you’ve truly done something wrong you feel guilt about, own up to it. However, if you’re struggling with something not going to plan — for example, how to make more money, get a better job, or why your b…
Ever since I was a little boy, I’ve dreamt small. I was a sickly child with severe ADHD. I had a learning disability that made it hard for me to read letters. And I was gay without knowing what that meant. Other kids and a few teachers made me feel like an outsider and not good enough. My health issues, which attracted unwanted attention, and being…
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It Gets Better Canada: Uplifting, Empowering, and Connecting 2SLGBTQ+ Youth Across Canada
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In this week's episode, I speak with Omid Razavi, the Executive Director, and Ethan Berkeley-Garcia, Youth Ambassador of It Gets Better Canada. I had such a great time hosting this interview. It's clear to me how committed both Omid and Ethan are to this important organization and the impact it's had on their own lives. Complete show notes, bios, a…
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Cultivating Leadership That Cares About its Employees — The Role of Neuroscience in Diversity, Equity, and LGBTQ+ Inclusion.
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In neuroscience, the ACC is an acronym for the anterior cingulate cortex, the part of the brain commonly called the animal or mammalian brain. Most animals have basic needs like food, shelter, safety, and procreation. If those needs are met, the animal feels safe. If not, they feel higher levels of stress and threat. Humans have the same needs. The…
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Small Town Pride: A Documentary About the Joys and Challenges of Being Queer in Canadian Small Towns
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In this episode, I speak with the Co-Director, Producer, and Editor of the film, Chelle Turingan. Organizing in church basements, classrooms and around kitchen tables, they take on a conservative town council that won’t fly a rainbow flag and bend some rules to create a safe space for youth to come out. Despite experiences of isolation and discrimi…
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Everything We Value, We’ve Been Taught to Value. Don’t Be Pink-Washed by Corporations Vying for Your LGBTQ+ Money this June.
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You have the power to demand inclusion, dignity, and respect 365 days a year because you can take your purchasing power elsewhere. But don’t sit in silence with your decision to support LGBTQ+ businesses or allies. ☞ Read the full article here. ********** As a queer thought leader, neuro-coach, writer, and podcaster, Darren Stehle helps LGBTQ+ crea…
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Feeling Stressed & Overwhelmed By All the Bad News in the World?
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We are overwhelmed by the untenable problems in the world and have little capacity left to feel like we have the agency to make a difference. Even for those of us with practiced emotional resilience, we face moments when we can’t take it anymore. When that happens, you need to take care of yourself, calm your reactive emotions and mind, and find wa…
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Are Personality Assessments Like Myers-Briggs and Enneagrams Useful for Personal Development
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These tests can be a leaping-off-point, but not a justification for who you are, perhaps for the simple reason that they are not factual. Find out why I don't use these kinds of tests with my clients and why I think they can be used as an excuse or a crutch. Read the article ☞ Are Personality Assessments Like Myers-Briggs and Enneagrams Useful When…
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Why "Sincerely Held Religious Beliefs" Are Hypocritical, Insincere, and Killing LGBTQ2S+ People
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Sincerely held religious beliefs lack critical thought. They’re unreasonable towards people who don’t believe or disagree. Pre-judgement of non-believers is what makes them hypocritical. ☞ Read the original post Articles mentioned in the episode: The Threat of Religious Extremism and Radicalized Individuals to the Common Good “Sincerely Held Religi…
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Interview With Dax Moy: Transformational Coach & Creator of MindMap Mastery Neuro-Coaching
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In every aspect of how Dax Moy shows up in the world is his desire to help people experience themselves as the version of themselves that they most want to meet. Dax is a coach, educator, mentor, author, public speaker, and strength trainer. He was my coach for a year and a half while I was part of his MindMap Mastery Coach training program. Click …
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Why Positive Thinking Is a Waste of Your Time and How to ‘Feel’ Instead to Improve Happiness
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"Just think positive," they say. "It will all work out for the best," said someone who wants to be helpful but doesn't know what to do. If you want to experience more peace of mind, calm, and happiness, you don't want to think positively. Listen in to find out can do instead. Read the post: "Why Positive Thinking Is a Waste of Your Time." Every Thu…
We are a species connected by our shared humanity but we act ever-more separate due to the liberalism myth of individuality. We live in a paradoxical duality: Our humanity connects us, but it doesn’t necessarily protect us. This is especially true for LGBTQ+ people in Poland, Chechnya, and Russia. Dominant religious myths and political parties have…
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Interview With Dax Moy: Transformational Coach & Creator of MindMap Mastery Neuro-Coaching | IDEA011
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Dax Moy is a coach, educator, mentor, author, public speaker, and strength trainer. In every aspect of how Dax shows up in the world is his desire to help people experience themselves as the version of themselves that they most want to meet. Dax was my coach for a year and a half while I was studying in his MindMap Mastery Coaching program. Click h…
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Are Personality Assessments Like Myers-Briggs and Enneagrams Useful for Personal Development? | IDEA010
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Personality tests can be helpful if you get to see what you believe to be true about yourself that you haven’t seen or realized before. These tests can be a leaping-off-point, but not a justification for who you are, perhaps for the simple reason that they are not factual. Find out why I don't use these kinds of test with my clients and why I think…
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Interview with Tim McCaskell, Author of "Queer Progress: From Homophobia to Homonationalism."
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Tim McCaskell's book, "Queer Progress: From Homophobia to Homonationalism," is a memoir and analysis of early Toronto gay and lesbian liberation politics, HIV/AIDS activism, queer social justice, and the rise of neoliberalism from 1974 to 2014. In this episode, we talk about the book as a way of understanding where we are now in 2022, and where thi…
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Your Smartphone Distracts You from Getting Things Done — Here's How to Make it Work for You | IDEA009
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Do you know what you want to accomplish and how to get those things done in ways that serve your wellbeing? Smartphones, apps, and social media all have their use. They can be powerful productivity tools for work and staying connected, but paradoxically, they can also be used for pure entertainment. If you want to be present, with the self-awarenes…
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30-Day IDEA(tion) Jump-Start for Queer Creators — From Idea to Making a Difference Doing What You Love
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If you’re a Queer creator, change-maker, or thought leader on a mission to make a difference, you know a single great idea has the power to change everything — your success, a creative project, or the world. ☞ Apply here: https://darrenstehle.com/jumpstartBy Darren Stehle | MindMap Mastery Coach
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30-Day IDEA(tion) Jump-Start for Queer Creators — From Idea to Making a Difference Doing What You Love
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If you’re a Queer creator, change-maker, or thought leader on a mission to make a difference, you know a single great idea has the power to change everything — your success, a creative project, or the world. ☞ Apply here: https://darrenstehle.com/jumpstart
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What Emotional States Can We Practice as Queer People to Experience More Joy Every Day?
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Joy can be found in the most mundane things and moments in life, so the more mindful we are of what makes us feel joy, the happier we will be. Nathan Serrato of Queer Conscious and I take a deep dive into what joy means and how to experience more of it every day — especially as LGBTQ2+ people. Click here for show notes, links, and the full video of…
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What Emotional States Can We Practice as Queer People to Experience More Joy Every Day? | IDEA008
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Joy can be found in the most mundane things and moments in life, so the more mindful we are of what makes us feel joy, the happier we will be. Nathan Serrato of Queer Conscious and I take a deep dive into what joy means and how to experience more of it every day — especially as LGBTQ2+ people. Click here for show notes, links, and full video of the…
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How Knowing Your Top Value for 2022 Will Help You Make Strategic Decisions and Accomplish Your Goals | IDEA007
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If you were to focus on living your top value for the rest of 2022, what would that look and feel like? What would that value make of you, and what could you accomplish? ****** Connect with the show: To submit questions or potential topics you'd like me to explore in future episodes, contact me. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Anchor, and Spotify Foll…
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Michael Bach's "Alphabet Soup: The Essential Guide to LGBTQ2+ Inclusion"
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Covering chapters such as Breaking Down the Alphabet and The Importance of Safe Space, Michael shows the importance of allyship in the workplace and engaging with employees, to interactions with volunteers, students, parishioners, or just everyday people on the street. "Alphabet Soup: The Essential Guide to LGBTQ2+ Inclusion at Work" is now availab…
Recently, I was a guest on the Shaun Proulx Show, SiriusXMCanada 167. We talked about finding your purpose and why you might want to have one. References: IDEA(tion) 001 and the supporting article, "3 Simple Self-Actualization Questions that Connect to Your True Purpose."
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Why Positive Thinking Is a Waste of Your Time and How to 'Feel' Instead to Improve Happiness | IDEA005
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"Just think positive," they say. "It will all work out for the best," said someone who wants to be helpful but doesn't know what to do. If you want if you want to experience more peace of mind, calm, and happiness, you don't want to think positively. Listen in to find out can do instead. Read the post: "Why Positive Thinking Is a Waste of Your Time…
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The Threat of Religious Extremism and Radicalized Individuals to the Common Good
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Critical thinking is not about being judgemental of other people for their ideas or beliefs. Instead, critical thinking is the practice of impartiality — attempting to suspend opinion, subjectivity, or outrage — while practicing logical, open-ended questioning and sometimes dialectical reasoning. In this episode, I discuss, The willingness and open…
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Does Courage Matter if You're on the Wrong Side? | IDEA004
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Is courage boldness, bravery, or a compassionate virtue? And what does that mean for the common good? Read the article: Does Courage Matter if You're on the Wrong Side? ***** Darren is a certified MindMap Mastery Coach, specializing in the areas of behavioural and change science relating to lifestyle and transformational coaching. Darren empowers L…
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How to Know If You're Outraged and Angry For All the Wrong Reasons — and What to Do Instead | IDEA003
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I've done it. I'm sure you've done it. You've lost your sh*t online. People love to complain, scream, stamp their feet, and play the outrage card. It is an unskillful way of showing up in life, surrendering the control of your feelings and emotional state of mind to another person, a group, an organization, or government. ***** Inspired by my artic…
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Not Causing Harm: How Self-Examination Is the Foundation of Mindfulness and Queer Wellbeing | IDEA002
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What does not causing harm to yourself and others rally mean and how does that cultivate a more loving humanity? Inspired by, “When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times,” by Pema Chödrön. Read the article: "LGBTQ+ People Are Uniquely Self-Aware and Can Teach Respect and Compassion for a Common Humanity."…
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3 Simple Self-Actualization Questions that Will Help You Realize Your True Purpose | IDEA001
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There are two types of boredom: one is meaningless and harmless. The other form of boredom will suck the life out of you as you repeatedly avoid taking action and facing your fears. Read the article: "3 Simple Self-Actualization Questions that Connect to Your True Purpose." ***** If you’re a queer creative or thought leader and want to become more …
IDEA(tion) is a Thought Leadership Podcast for Insight, Direction, and Emotional Alignment by Darren Stehle, MindMap Mastery Coach. If you're a queer thought leader or creative, you know that a single idea can have the power to change everything — your work, starting a new project, or changing the world. Darren Stehle — Empowering Queer Creatives &…
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Fostering an LGBTQ+ Cricket Club's Ethos and Culture of Inclusion, Acceptance, and Individual Value
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In this session, I ask Lachlan how I can help. What he needs is clarity and direction for how to maintain and cultivate an open and welcoming space for all voices to be heard at the Birmingham Unicorns Cricket club meetings. The challenge he has is that committee meetings are open to all who wish to attend. It’s easy to get overwhelmed by all the i…
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LGBTQ+ People Are Uniquely Self-Aware and Can Teach Respect and Compassion for a Common Humanity
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In the book, “When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times,” Pema Chödrön expresses the idea of not causing harm to yourself or others. Of course, she means causing no physical harm, but just as important, not causing harm to ourselves by the ways in which we think about ourselves. For example, not being self-deprecating when we don’t b…
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An Intergenerational Conversation With Gay Activist Ken Popert
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Ken Popert’s name kept showing up in the historical research Jeff has been doing at the Human Sexuality Archive at Cornell, and for one of his courses, “Making Public Queer History.” Jeff recognized Ken’s name because I used to work at Pink Triangle Press (PTP) in Toronto, Canada where Ken was my direct report. I had also talked about PTP, and its …
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Brainstorming Playful Gamification for a Non-Cis Gender Somatic Pleasure Practice
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Ro Rose is currently a student at the Somatic Sex Education Institute. They have been working with me for the last four months. I coach Ro around IDEA(tion) — to help them gain Insight, establish consistent Direction, and take efficient steps that are in Emotional Alignment to maintain momentum while making progress on what they want to accomplish.…
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What to Expect from the Think Queerly Podcast in 2022
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Over the past year or more in publishing my ideas, I have noticed that my messaging might appear scattered, if not confusing. That’s on me, and I have taken to rectify that. If you only want to hear about Queer topics, Think Queerly is what you want in your ears. The Think Queerly Podcast explores the mutually arising relationship between the statu…
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Queerness, Horror, Memoir, and Toronto LGBTQ History in “RED X” — a New Novel by David Demchuk
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“RED X,” David Demchuk’s second novel, is about a series of disappearances from Toronto’s gay community over a 40-year period (actually over 200 years), and the efforts of surviving friends and family to find out who or what is responsible. Interwoven is David Demchuk’s own story as a horror writer, as a gay man, and as someone whose novel is breac…
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My Top 10 Articles and Think Queerly Podcast Episodes from 2021
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Underlying my work is my philosophy of human-heartedness. This is a non-dogmatic approach to lead with personal responsibility for equity and the common good — a way of being that improves open-mindedness, reduces contention, and increases kindness, compassion, and understanding for others. Looking back over this past year, I believe that I have cr…
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What Are the Character Traits that Ground Who You Are?
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What Are Character Traits? A simple way of framing character traits is to think of an actor playing a character in a movie. The actor needs to embody the character’s attitude and personality for the viewer to believe how the actor is behaving. Character traits are what we use to describe who we are and how we act. For example, you can describe some…
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Owning the Powerful Distinction: ‘It's Not About Me, It's About the Product.’
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It’s time for something new on the Think Queerly Podcast. I’m excited to bring you what I plan to be a once-a-month feature episode in which I coach one of my clients — raw, unscripted, and unplanned. If you ever wondered how I coach, or what it’s like to be coached, I know you will enjoy these episodes. This is what you will hear during this IDEAt…
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Human(e) Thought Leadership: How to Be the Change for the Common Good Through Self-Mastery
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I Envision a World that Respects All of Humanity To lead yourself from such a noble place — as if that place already existed — you will need to practice and embody values, principles, and beliefs that support a universal human dignity. However, I’m not suggesting a belief in a spiritual entity, following a religion, or a set of commandments. Instea…
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Why Are Rightwing Extremist Groups So Secretive?
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Recently, I read in the Guardian that "Top Republicans rub shoulders with extremists in secretive rightwing group, leak reveals." The details of the reporting stuck in my head. Then a question came to mind: Why are some rightwing extremist groups so secretive? What have they got to hide? The only reason these kinds of groups are secretive is not be…
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Try These Transformational Strategies to Create More Happiness, Freedom, and Certainty in Your Life
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Over the course of a bit more than a year, I’ve published a number of personal growth exercises. I gave the process the name, Personal Evolution Process (PEP). Each process follows a structure to help you define the problem or challenge at hand. You then further refine the problem by turning your thoughts around or considering influencing factors. …
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When You're Stuck Between Two Difficult Choices, How Do You Decide?
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When you’re faced with the choice between two significant polarities in life and don't know how to decide which one is best, try this Personal Evolution Process. This process will help you to get clarity and certainty about what's most important and meaningful to you about both options, and then choose the one that provides the most emotional align…
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Thoughts on the Issues to Consider for Leaving Facebook
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Last week, a friend of mine wrote a post on Facebook to say that she was strongly considering leaving Facebook forever. While she benefits from some aspects of the platform, she wrote that she feels out of integrity supporting a platform that is detrimental to the current and future society she wants to live in. By remaining on Facebook, she is enc…
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Freddie Lewis — Using Music and Poetry to Share His Journey of Finding Self-Love as a Queer Person
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Freddie Lewis offers a rarely seen or heard genuineness of character that connects to our deeply humane level of self-acceptance and being seen for one’s truest self. Through his poetry or his words put to music, he shares expressions of happiness, joy, playfulness, prettiness, and rhythmic beats that catch your ear, invite you in more deeply, and …
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We Don’t Need to Blindly Follow a Guru, Religion, or an Ideology To Be Moral
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Why are so many people afraid to take personal responsibility for their actions that affect the common good? Note that I did not say negative or damaging actions because I believe we must take personal responsibility for our actions, regardless of their intent. We need to be cognizant of the choices we are making, especially if we intend them to be…
