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Advice for smart men on how to succeed with women in sex, dating, relationships, and marriages. Beautiful women give you a peek behind the curtain into what the feminine really craves from the masculine ... and how to give it to us. Personal growth is sexy, haven't you heard? Get in touch at dearmenpodcast@gmail.com. Take our free training for men at https://evolutionary.men/dearmen
 
The Chakras + Sex + Relationships podcast is a weekly experience with Eliza Boquin, a licensed psychotherapist, sex therapist, & energy healing practitioner in Houston, Texas. On this podcast, Eliza will be discussing how to have healthier, mutually-satisfying, pleasure-filled relationships while staying in command of your energy. Eliza will be discussing topics that relate to our bodies, minds, & spirits and sharing information for clients to upgrade their relationships. To find out more ab ...
 
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How do you keep sex hot in your relationship over time? How do you generate attraction on a date without feeling like you're forcing it (whether a date with a new person you met while online dating or your wife of many years)? How can you encourage your woman partner to relax, soften, and receive without saying a word? You've probably heard us talk…
 
'Tis the season for reflection, and here Jason and I each share our top learnings when it comes to hearing from -- and coaching -- hundreds of men on dating, relationships, marriage, love, sex, separation, devotion, divorce, infidelity, personal growth, dedication, longing, and more. Whether it's wanting or needing more sex in a long-term relations…
 
It might seem like a paradox: You're in a long-term relationship with a woman, yet it's actually harder to approach her for sex. You might think it's more difficult to approach a new sex or dating partner, but in fact it can be even more challenging to initiate sex with your wife/spouse. Here, Jason gets personal in terms of his experience having t…
 
In the world of advanced sexual mastery for men, the non-ejaculatory orgasm (aka "energetic orgasm" or "full-body orgasm") looms large. In this episode, Cam Fraser, Australia's leading sex coach for men, gets into the details around this. Because if this kind of sexual mastery is interesting to you as a penis-owner, you may wonder: How do you actua…
 
How good are you at gauging whether a woman is interested in you? How 'bout how to "escalate" in a titillating yet ethical (non-creepy) way? YouTube personality Marni has been a "wing girl" to thousands of men over the years, and in this lively discussion we get personal. We cover how she got her start, what she has learned about men, dating, and s…
 
Ever wondered whether you have a normal or healthy relationship with weed, alcohol, or another substance? Here's a related thing to consider: I've dated a number of men who used marijuana or alcohol to regulate (i.e. they were functioning alcoholics or weed addicts), and I was scared to tell them how it affected our relationship. It's hard to tell …
 
When your partner triggers you, how do you respond? Do you have boundless patients and flawless boundaries? Or do you struggle to know how to get your needs met while also ensuring that your partner feels respected, cherished, and seen? Jayson Gaddis, author of Getting to Zero, and I get real in this conversation that includes how to "out" ourselve…
 
Nope, we're not talking about your favorite porn video -- we're talking about what your particular psyche finds sexy. It turns out your hottest sexual movie is a fundamental part of your sexuality you might not even know about yet. Celeste has worked with thousands of both men and women to discover their core desires, and we discuss themes that ari…
 
When you think of a sex educator, you probably think about school. But the truth is a lot of us need sex education as adults (even married folks!), and Kristopher Lovestone is a passionate advocate of healthy, fun, and informative sex ed for men who have sex with women. His new book Conscious Cock provides a wealth of info, which we discuss. We als…
 
What has a woman who has sex with men want to sleep with a man again and again? What, according to sex research, makes a man great in bed? It's not what you might think. I was recently on Robbie Kramer's podcast Leverage discussing findings in my sex research. Thousands of women revealed what, to them makes a man a great lover. Interestingly, less …
 
Ever dated someone from a different background, or from a different country? What's sex and relationship like with a language barrier? Robbie and I get down and dirty in terms of our experiences as North Americans dating in Western and Eastern Europe, South America, Japan, the Caribbean, and beyond. If you've ever had sex or dated someone abroad (o…
 
Ahhh, sexual shame. Most of us have it to some extent, and it can severely limit your sex and relationship life if you don't get it handled. Fortunately, integrating sexual shame is more than possible when you put attention on the right things. Whether you're in a dating relationship, having casual sex, or you're in a committed relationship, becomi…
 
“In short, the idea for Dripstick started at the intersection of baking and laziness.” Frances Tang is the founder and CEO of Awkward Essentials, and an all-around awesome human being. In the world of sex tech, she's also unique -- her product makes it easy for women to clean up cum (yep, you got that right) after sex. That might not sound like a b…
 
Ever felt guilty or ashamed of your sexuality because of your religious background? Nikole Mitchell started life as a Baptist ... and is now an OnlyFans star! Along the way to reclaiming her full, passionate sexuality, she set boundaries with family members and learned how to be right with her own sex drive. She's also a sex-positive mother of thre…
 
Sick of getting ghosted or having other not-so-great experiences on dating apps like Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, etc.? While the apps are an important part of the sex and relationship landscape these days, there are lots of other stimulating ways to meet dating and relationship partners. Camille Virgina, author of The OFFline Dating Method: 3 Steps to A…
 
Ever wondered what it's like to do ayahuasca, MDMA (molly), or psilocybin (magic mushrooms)? Are they right for you (can they help boost your sexual confidence, feel less anxious overall, and/or let go of old trauma)? Here, we share our experiences with different "medicines," as well as their huge advantages and drawbacks. People with relationship …
 
"When I got out of the military, I couldn't feel a damn thing." While technically ending his military career as a success, Reeves' internal experience was totally different. He felt miserable and disconnected -- and this was the place from which he dated, had sex, and got into relationships. What happened? Nothing good! His partners were unhappy, h…
 
All of us will experience a breakup at some point. In this week's episode, I share with you my tips on healing your heart after ending a relationship. Be sure to share this episode with a friend.Tag me on social media @elizagboquinFind out more about working with me at flowandeasehealing.com.By Eliza Boquin, MA, LMFT
 
Ever wondered what tantra means, exactly? You're not alone. If you picture a bunch of people having a massive sex orgy, or a married couple attempting to spice up their sex life with tantra, you're also not alone. When it comes to sex, dating, and relationships, conscious sexual expression is often something to which we aspire but don't always atta…
 
Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Nicole Carter joins this week's show and shares with us some of her favorite self-soothing techniques designed to help us feel safe during stressful & chaotic times. Follow Nicole on IG: @msnicole_c Follow Eliza: @elizagboquin More info at flowandeasehealing.com
 
Often the people who are the most sexually attractive to us are the ones who trigger all our "stuff." We call this "trauma sex," and quite frankly, it's hot. It's heavy. It's intense. It's addictive! And it happens to both men and women. Whether in a dating or relationship context (i.e. a marriage) you've ever felt like you couldn't stop sleeping w…
 
Holly Randall grew up in a household where both parents were in the adult industry (as photographers/producers). Eventually she herself became an adult film director (and podcaster!). In a world where free porn is ubiquitous and affects all of us in our dating and relationship lives, it's worth exploring the differences between porn as depicted ons…
 
Ever felt like your partner was trying to control you, whether in dating or a committed relationship — for example by withholding sex, subtly shaming you, or making you feel guilty if you needed space? Simone Milasas, author of Relationship: Are You Sure You Want One?, breaks down several common ways women who have sex with men often try to control…
 
Irene and her husband started out hot and heavy, but that sexual chemistry didn't last. Eventually sex was painful for her and she sought out help from OBGYNs and other experts ... to no avail. She, like many women, thought she was broken. This took a heavy toll on her marriage, and it was years before she was able to truly enjoy sex again. Now she…
 
Got sexual issues like not being able to get hard when you want to (aka erectile dysfunction), premature ejaculation, or being unable to keep an erection when you want to? Or relationship issues like pushing away a woman you like without not knowing why, getting nervous when things are going towards sex, or disruptive anxious/avoidant attachment dy…
 
Imagine going up to a woman you don't know and saying, straight up, "You're sexy." Can you picture it? Does it give you anxiety? Connell used to be a "nice guy," constantly relegated to the friend zone. But he didn't stay that way — his story is a fun and compelling example of what happens when you reclaim your sexuality and lean into your edges. I…
 
Ever wanted to spice up your sex life with some dirty talk? Connected sex leads to a happy, healthy relationship, and that can be enhanced by adding in elements like dirty talk during sex. But how do you actually do it? What do you say, and how do you bring it up with a partner? We cover all that, plus a super fun, sexy exercise you can do with you…
 
Most dating apps for straight folks have about 90% men and 10% women on them -- so the experience for men is often one of scarcity. (If you have trouble getting matches as a man, that's normal.) So wouldn't it be great if there were an app where you could go on 8 mini-dates in an hour and a half? Filter Off is a video-first dating app that helps yo…
 
If you want a healthy, happy relationship, you'll need to address your attachment wounds. We've all got 'em to one extent or another -- and yours may be more pronounced depending on your childhood. If you've been wanting to overcome anxious attachment (or avoidant attachment) because you're suffering in relationship (or dating), you'll appreciate t…
 
How do you stay in integrity when you have women friends, as a man in a monogamous relationship. How do you handle it if your partner gets triggered over you meeting up with a female friend, and how can you take steps to prevent that? Some men naturally have more female friends than male ones, or find it easier to connect with women in life than me…
 
Many couples start out hot and heavy when it comes to sex, only to see that sexual heat fade. One of the sources of this can be unresolved sexual trauma in one or both partners ... which can be hard to talk about. How do you bring up your own need for a dynamic and fulfilling sex life when she clearly doesn't want to talk about it? Here, we look at…
 
If you're a man who has sex with women, going down on women is not a topic you'd necessarily feel safe bringing up with other women in your life. So here's a peek behind the curtain in terms of what women want from oral sex -- what we love, what we crave, what gets us hot. Whether you're wanting to know how to go down on your wife or how to go down…
 
May is Mental Health Awareness Month AND National Masturbation Month! For many womxn, however, the idea of self-pleasuring is a challenge. In this episode, I share w/you the benefits of self-pleasure as well as how to get started if you're having difficulty. Resource Mentioned: Emily Nagoski - Come As You Are Download Pleasure Meditation at flowand…
 
"How do I get consent?" is a common question men who have sex with women have when it comes to sexy time. Even movie stars need help when it comes to presenting "sex" with consent and healthy boundaries. Did you know Intimacy Coordinators are a thing? They help actors, directors, and others shoot smokin' hot sex scenes that include healthy communic…
 
If you desire a fun, healthy relationship with hot, connected sex and harmonious teamwork, you can have it ... but it takes consciousness work to transcend the wounding of the past. You know you must become aware of how your parents shaped you, but did you know patterns from your grandparents and other forebears can also be involved? Here, Mark Wol…
 
In this week's episode, I share with you how to use all 7 of your major chakras when you're having a difficult conversation. If you struggle with confrontation, this episode is for YOU! Rate & Review ***** Follow Me on IG/Twitter: @elizagboquin flowandeasehealing.com Share this episode on social media & tag me!…
 
"My wife doesn't like sex." "Why isn't my wife attracted to me?" "How can I fix my marriage?" These are common questions for men in sexless marriages (psychologists a sexless relationship as one where sex happens 10x/year or less). If you're in a sexless marriage, it's likely taking a heavy toll on you. It's also hard to know what's normal, since w…
 
Are you a late bloomer? When it comes to sex, dating, and relationships, there's a perception that if you're a straight man, you should have sex ASAP, and with as many partners as possible. But the truth is, a lot of men in their 20s, 30s, and beyond are still virgins (or sexually inexperienced), and we don't talk about it enough. If this applies t…
 
Have you ever heard of someone dying from a broken heart? How does grief impact our heart chakra? These are all questions my dear friend & colleague, Shameitra Green, LMFT, answers for us this week. She shares her expert advice on moving through the grief process and tips on healing our heart chakras. Stay in touch w/us: IG: @shameitrangreen From M…
 
Ever been scared of your woman's anger, sadness, grief, or rage? It can be overwhelming and hard to handle when a woman fully expresses her feminine storm. The truth is, there are both toxic and healthy expressions and it's critical to know the difference. It's also important to know how to skillfully welcome even more emotion in your partner -- an…
 
When we first meet somebody the sexual energy fueled by our sacral chakra may be front & center but what isn't always as active is our brow chakra - the one responsible for self-awareness & wisdom. In this week's episode, I chat about the importance of our brow energy flowing when dating & ways to activate the flow of this energy. Resource: Book of…
 
Whether you're on Hinge, Bumble, OKCupid, Match.com, eHarmony, Coffee Meets Bagel or any of the other multitude of dating apps, you've likely experienced ghosting. Many of us have both been ghosted and been a ghost. Why? What's the motivation, and how does it affect dating and relationships? We get into all the sticky questions here around integrit…
 
This week's episode focuses on how to use your sacral chakra to naturally boost your sexual desire. These simple practices can make a big difference for anyone struggling to connect with their sexual energy. Resource Mentioned: Dr. Brenda Davies - https://www.brendadavies.com/. Twitter & IG: @elizagboquin flowandeasehealing.com chakrassexrelationsh…
 
How do you actually apply attachment theory to relationship, and how do you know when to get outside help (i.e. a couples therapist or coach)? The 2 top things couples argue about are sex and money, and handling that kind of conflict skillfully is challenging. Fortunately, while relationships (whether you're married or not) are complex, but they're…
 
It's a common relationship question, especially when a marriage isn't working: Should we stay together for the kids? Should I stay in this for the kids ... even if our sex life is dead? ... even if we fight all the time? Here, we explore the line between "making it work" and unhealthy relationship dynamics that do affect the kids. Sometimes the bes…
 
You've heard of energy healing, but still unsure what it is. Why isn't there a lot of scientific research being done on it? And why should you even care? In this week's episode, I explain all of this, as well, as a little backstory on why I'm so passionate about combining this healing modality with traditional talk therapy. If you've been wondering…
 
Modern sex, dating, and relationships often Hinge on dating apps (see what I did there?). Whether you're on Bumble, Tinder, Match, eHarmony, OKCupid, Plenty of Fish, Coffee Meets Bagel, or, of course, Hinge, your experience will vary depending on a number of factors. Here, we get personal in terms of what we, as women, experience on the apps, and h…
 
The fear of being called creepy or viewed as a pervert, whether in a sexual scenario, while dating, or even in relationship, runs deep. It can reach levels of terror, especially for men who have gotten messages about their sexuality being "bad" or "wrong" since they were young. What do you do when the fear of being creepy prevents you from approach…
 
Too often women measure their strength by how much pain they can endure & keep going. Licensed Psychotherapist, Charmaine Simmons, sat down to share her tips on how to overcome the "Strong Black Woman Syndrome" by practicing true self-love & self-care. Her own path to healing taught her that being true to herself was the first step on the journey.C…
 
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