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This podcast is designed to empower you. Adoption is a fraction of who you are, we illuminate all the the other aspects that make you brilliant. Through constructive healing-based conversations, we engage with adoptees and specialists from all over the world. We'll also include adoptees interviewing their own adoptive parents. These whole-hearted conversations will give you the tools to heal, overcome and flourish. Posts every Saturday. @youngadoptee
 
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Today in this solo episode I wanted to talk to you about lost languages. I stumbled across this article called “Forgotten First Languages Leave An Imprint On The Brain.” For those of you feeling overwhelmed (like me) with the idea of re-learning your mother-tongue this article gave me so much comfort and hope. www.laniseantoineshelley.com @lantoine…
 
Jacob Taylor Mosquera is a Colombian adoptee who taught himself Spanish in two years and now teaches Spanish in Seattle. He is the author of, “I Met Myself In October: A Memoir of Belonging.” He shares his extraordinary journey of discovery, self-actualization and identity. This is going to be a good one! www.laniseantoineshelley.com @lantoines @yo…
 
Our guest today is Astrid Castro. You’ve heard me talk about how much I love the phrase “The Adoptee Constellation” before, and I first heard it from her. Astrid’s works in both the private and public sectors of various adoption organizations such the Oregon Post Adoption Resource Center (ORPARC), Holt International, Rocky Mountain Adoption Exchang…
 
Today’s guest who has one of the gentlest spirits I’ve ever encountered. Moses Farrow is a very active activists and a long time family therapist. In this conversation he gives some actionable steps to come back to yourself and begin the work to reconnecting with who you are. Moses Farrow is an advocate for mental health, adoption reform and suicid…
 
The co-founder and executive director of The Adoptee Collective reached out to me about a possible collaboration. She and I instantly hit it off. Heather Enright is not an adoptee but has an in-depth perspective having worked as a social worker for 19 years. After watching my panel series she had the intuitive ping to leave her current job and star…
 
This conversation is incredibly important if you have a child of another race, if your family is of another race, or if you live on this planet. You will walk away more informed. My guest Issac Etter is an incredible educator, consultant, speaker, activist and social entrepreneur. He’s the co-founder of SafeHouse Lancaster, where he is the co-execu…
 
This week is a solo episode to share some actionable steps to unlearn perfectionism. This is something that I am constantly working on and have finally gained some ground on through meditation and thought work. I've included some links to people who've helped me along the way. www.laniseantoineshelley.com @lantoines @youngadoptee Joe Dispenza: http…
 
Today’s episode takes a deep dive into my perfectionism, boundaries and people pleasing. I did not intend for it to play out that way, but when I met Amy Geller, today’s guest, I was disarmed. She has a magical--Jedi way of getting down to the root of the issue in a matter of minutes—I could have spoken with her for hours. I can see why she is so s…
 
I lost my grandmother, and my aunt Juliana lost her mother about a month ago. We asked Dr. Charmaine Borda to interview myself and my biological aunt, Dr Juliana Olson- Deans, because Charmaine is a close friend of Juliana’s and I have loved getting to know her this last year. Both of these women are adoptees who work as clinical psychologists in t…
 
Today’s interview is a testament a perseverance. I connected with Obakeng Beddny three times because of technical difficulties. Obakeng is a natural orator who will spur you to stand up, no matter what your beliefs may be, and invite you to recognize the love that already resides in you. He is such a brilliant mind and radiant force in this world. …
 
Last season for five episodes we listened to adoptees having a dialogue specifically about adoption with an adoptive family member. Starting with episode 14 of season 1, with Lionel and his dad. We explored conversations with Juliana and her husband, and Schai and her brothers, and Laurie and her parents. We are modeling how to have a conversation …
 
Last season for five episodes we listened to adoptees having a dialogue specifically about adoption with an adoptive family member. Starting with episode 14 of season 1, with Lionel and his dad. We explored conversations with Juliana and her husband, and Schai and her brothers, and Laurie and her parents. We are modeling how to have a conversation …
 
I share what I do while in self-preservation mode, and how I get back into a space where I can feel the full spectrum of my emotions--without it consuming me. And of course, we talk about mothers and what that means to me as an adoptee this Mother's Day weekend. www.laniseantoineshelley.com @youngadopteee @lantoines Poem by William Butler Yeats "He…
 
My guest, Kevin Barhydt is the author of “Dear Stephen Micheal’s Mother” and the host of an educative youtube channel. His wisdom is astounding. The depth of his vulnerability and authenticity truly inspired me. Kevin shares how he pivoted out of fear into faith by building a foundation of courage. ** Please know that this episode mentions sexual a…
 
Today’s guest has a blog called The Adoptee In Me. She speaks so beautifully about her connection to her son and father. Like me, she came from a single parent household. It’s rare that we have adoptees raised by just a father. Lionel in season one episode 14 is the only other adoptee I know. She and I connected instantly over the topics of family,…
 
Hey loves! This week I just want to give you three books that have helped me create more than I ever have before this past year. Even though the sky was falling outside I continued to flourish in my artistic life. I want to share with you ways you can set, accomplish and hold fast to anything you set out to do. This is going to be a triumphant year…
 
Merry Holidays! We check in with Dr. Juliana Olson-Deans to see how she feels last week's convo with her husband went. She's been married for 20 years! I had to find out her advice on enduring partnerships and figure out what it was like for her dating as an adoptee. Whether we know it or not our adoption impacts every relationship. It's up to you …
 
Dr. Juliana Olson Deans is back! She is a licensed professional counselor, mental health counselor, and national certified counselor who imparted great wisdom in episode 5 and co-founded the Interracial Adoptee Panel series with me this past summer. Juliana is here with her husband Derek. As I said before, these familial chats are the most challeng…
 
Today I chat with Christine Heimann who is the co-founder and executive director of Adoptee Bridge where they offer education, mentorships and support for international adoptees and their families from any age. www.laniseantoineshelley.com @lantoines @youngadoptee Christine Heimann's organization "Adoptee Bridge": https://www.adopteebridge.org/…
 
I want to highlight one of my favorite films, the light hearted comedic French film “He even has your eyes” available on Netflix. It’s about a Congolese couple who want to adopt and end up with a Caucasian blue eyed baby. If you were shocked by that image, that's exactly why they made the film to address the double standards and prejudices in inter…
 
We are back withe Schai who graced us in episode 4 with her poetry. This is the conclusion of Schai’s conversation with her brothers Manny and Jaccen. They go in about their own individual adoption journeys and give us some advice on how we can do adoption better. At the very end I check in with Schai to see how she thought the interview went, so s…
 
We are back with sister soldier Schai, who interviews her two brothers; one is biological and the other is adopted. She leads them through a conversation on how she met her twin in adulthood, how they think adoption could be improved and what it means to have them all get along within this complicated familial web. What a beautiful model of a whole…
 
Interracial Adoptee Panelist, Laurie Nordahl chats with her parents about how the family received her when they brought her home from Colombia, ethics behind adoption and the importance of consent when someone needs space to process their feelings. I gave Laurie core questions and she created her own powerful conversations that surprised even her. …
 
This is the conclusion of a conversation with Richard and Lionel Boisvert tackles the efficacy of adoption support groups and how one prepares a black child for the black community and the police. At the very end, I check-in with Lionel to see how it went for him. Lionel Boivert is a Haitian adoptee who came from the same orphanage as me, "Haiti Ho…
 
At last we have adoptee interviews with their own parents. In observance of November being National Adoption Month, I've coordinating one on one conversations between adoptees and their parents. Adoption is rarely spoken about in the home, why is it that? There is so much unresolved pain in the single word "adoption." I'm here to show you that thes…
 
This week performer and artist Indigo Ciochetti and I chat about the book My Grandfather Would Have Shot Me by German adoptee, Jennifer Teege. Teege discovers that she has an ancestral connection to the Nazi’s, most specifically Amon Goeth, an infamous commander of a concentration camp featured in Schindler's List. She, of course, is distraught by …
 
This week I give reflections of my journey into the adoption community. October 17th is my birthday, so I am celebrating it in different ways. Many adoptees (including myself) find it hard to truly celebrate themselves, birthdays and holidays. These things can trigger scarcity and shame. I'd like to invite you to celebrate your worthy existence. If…
 
Kim Noonan is a filmmaker and the host of the podcast "Multi-Racial White Boy." Kim and I talk about the idea of “whiteness” which is pervasive in the interracial adoptee community. Some adoptees grow up wanting to “be white” in order to fit in. I was lucky enough to have black role models in the dance world who encouraged me to love my skin. James…
 
Warning! This episode mentions sexual violence. This episode unpacks the healing powers of the blog "The Lost Daughters." Amanda created the blog, whose group of adoptee contributors is ever growing, to propagate her mission of empowerment and peace. I found the blog on facebook and submitted a piece on racism. Amanda is a licensed master social wo…
 
This week I spend time with my dear friend, Canadian actress Brigit Wilson. She and I played witches in stratford Shakespeare Festival's 2016 production of Macbeth. This week we examine the definition of "orphan" and how it has been depicted throughout our favorite plays in Shakespeare and stories like Anne of Green Gables. Brigit graced the boards…
 
I sit down with William Uhrlaub, a Haitian adoptee who has taught himself Creole after reunifying with his biological family. He was a panelist on the Interracial Adoptee Panel Series: Biological Family where he shared his reunification story and how he managed to assimilate into Haitian culture. William encapsulates the power of finding your "peop…
 
Dr Borda, PHD, LMFT, LMHC, ACC, CHT joined us as an expert for the third panel: Myth Busters. She returns to give us an in-depth view of her work in the adoption realm, combating “compassion fatigue” for doctors, the re-traumatizing nature of “re-homing” children who’ve been adopted into the wrong family and grief counseling for parents who’ve stru…
 
I reached out to Melissa who is actively on the front lines of educating people in the adoption community. We discuss the harmful language Abby Johnson uses to describe her own adopted son in the infamous youtube video. There are misconceptions about the black community that she perpetuates with alarming conviction. Melissa is a formidable essayist…
 
This week I reach out to my biological aunt Dr. Juliana Olson-Deans who is a fellow adoptee as well as an adoption therapist. We discuss the 9 character types of the enneagram and how we're using the information to navigate our budding relationship. You may recognize Dr. Deans from the Interracial Adoptee Panel series, where she was co-host. I was …
 
This week I discuss the exquisite poetry of Schai Belair-Toussaint Schairer, a fellow sister in adoption, spoken word poet and founder of F.I.S.T. (Fighting Injustice Standing Together) a non-profit organization working to empower incarcerated women through writing. Schai was a panelist on three of the four International Adoptee Panels sponsored by…
 
I have the rare opportunity to interview my mother, Karla Shelley-Albert and my godmother Heidi Husted-Armstrong. It’s an incredibly unique thing for an adoptee to interview their parental figures, most parents refuse, but mine were eager to support me in this endeavor. They, like myself are committed to educating the adoption community, which mean…
 
I continue my conversation with The president and CEO of Fondation pour les Enfants d’Haiti, Gladys Thomas. Gladys addresses why she stopped facilitating adoptions, how she introduced her adopted son to his family and what adoptees should do under the pressure of supporting their biological family once they grow up. She is the recipient of recipien…
 
Episode 1. Gladys Thomas: Finding Courage (Part. 1) The president and CEO of Fondation Pour Les Enfants d'Haiti (sister organization to US Foundation for the Children of Haiti) the organization helming the orphanage I came from, once called Haiti Home for Children and later was known as Rainbow of Love Nursery. Gladys is one of the most powerful vo…
 
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