Manage episode 284987265 series 2597286
I was that gal who morphed into what my partner did, ate, who be hung out with and how he lived. All my ways of being went “bye bye” because of a belief I held true that went something like this - “If you don’t do what they want to do, they’ll break up with you. You’ll appear difficult, you’ll be a drainer and that’s not how to keep a boyfriend. So just put your shit aside Ms John!”
That led me to planet LOST! and it took months (sometimes years) to retrieve my lost self and put it all back together again. Well fk that! I'd rather lose a relationship than lose myself again. However I do believe there is a sweet spot in the middle and that is that we can own who we are and share ourselves with another without getting lost.