Manage episode 325648976 series 2950338
Love never hurt so good for two co-workers who enter a contractual relationship as partners in consensual play, pleasure and pain.
"Love and Leashes" fills an important void in the romantic drama and comedy scene, especially after the debable which was "50 Shades of Gray". The movie offers a heartfelt and fresh take on BDSM-centered relationships while managing to explain some of the most basic concepts even to those who may be unfamiliar with BDSM. BDSM-centered movies are already few and far between, but what's even rarer are those interested in portraying a healthy BDSM relationship between consenting adults, as BDSM has a long history to excuse and explain away toxic relationships. Such is not the case here, as "Love and Leashes" really wants to write home about its message that there is nothing wrong to enjoy BDSM as long as it's done consensually and that real life BDSM has often little to nothing to do with what is portrayed in the porn industry. However, as much as "Love and Leashes" wants to push for a BDSM-positive message, it ultimately fails to deliver a compelling story without regurgitating the typical romantic comedy and drama tropes we've already seen a million times before, all the way down to the identity switch situation. Most notably, I wish "Love and Leashes" would have told us more about its side characters, something the movie does surprisingly well, as antagonists like Hana show up but never create the conflict she was intended to cause. I give it 3/5 because I think "Love and Leashes" wants to send an important message and that it does do some things right, such as the chemistry between the two main leads and its questioning of gender norms and how they impact our approach towards romantic and sexual relationships, but unfortunately "Love and Leashes" stops there, ultimately leaving the viewer with a shallow feeling. Would "Love and Leashes" be a bit less reliant on your typical romcom tropes and really focus on its central themes, I believe it would have more successfully told us the story about the importance that human sexuality is messy and complex and that we're all allowed to like whatever we like as long as it's between two or more consenting adults.
BDSM is a term used to describe aspects of sex that involve dominance, submission, and control. The practice typically involves one partner taking on a more dominant role during sex, while the other is more submissive. The acronym BDSM can be divided into these categories:
- Bondage: Restricting a partner’s freedom of movement, for example, with ropes, handcuffs, or other restraints
- Discipline: Agreed upon rules and punishments for a dominant partner to exert control over a submissive partner
- Dominance: The act of showing dominance over a physical partner, either during sex or outside of the bedroom
- Submission: The act of showing submission to the dominant partner's actions and wishes
- Sadism and Masochism (or Sadomasochism): Pleasure that a partner may feel from either inflicting pain (sadism) or receiving pain (masochism), either physical or emotional
While these are the broader categories, there is no one way to practice BDSM — different types can include power play, role-playing, pain play, bondage, wax play, edging, sensory deprivation, or humiliation.
According to a 2016 study, nearly 47% of women and 60% of men have fantasized about dominating someone in a sexual context. The same study found that BDSM sex was slightly more prevalent in couples on the LGBTQ spectrum, but researchers otherwise determined that BDSM sex was practiced across different ages, genders, and ethnic backgrounds.