How to Say "Yes" and "No" Like a Pro


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Sometimes being a people-pleaser is just NOT fun. Sure, we may get excited at the chance to help someone or work really hard to get the satisfaction of a job well done, but at what cost?

We’ve all had that dreaded feeling, having to decide between saying “yes” or saying “no” to something or someone.

You might be asking yourself, is saying “yes” really a “bad” thing? If you think about it, always saying “yes” all the time can hurt us because it can get in the way of what we really want to do, say, and be.

So, why is it so difficult to say “no?”

Why is it so difficult to be honest with ourselves when we know the answer in our hearts but we say “yes” anyway?

Why are we so afraid of letting others down?

In this episode, we’re going to explore all of these things! It can be a challenge to find yourself saying “no” because deep down, we don’t want people to be upset or disappointed. We don’t want others to think that we couldn’t be there for them, or to think that we’re mean or even selfish.

Here’s the reality, my friend. It’s not fair to you if you feel like you’re being torn in two different directions! You have the power to say what is and isn’t going to work or be beneficial for you.

When we make so many promises by saying “yes,” we become unable to show up with our full potential and to do the things we actually want to do. So, let’s explore these concepts some more and dive right in.

To help you navigate this complicated yes and no journey, feel free to download my free guide. It's called the Kindness to Self Handbook. It's full of affirmations, principles and a brief checklist to help keep you showing up for yourself. Simply go to to get your free copy!


[0:31] The origin of people pleasing and the “yes” attitude

[3:56] What really happens when we always say “yes”

[5:27] The reasons why taking care of our needs and being kind to ourselves actually matters

[8:57] The strategies you need to know to actually say “no” effectively

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