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In this information-dense episode, we learn several masterful points on how to relate better to all those around us. How can we become better listeners? Why do marriages end? What is the difference between feeling felt vs feeling understood? What are the gender differences when it comes to emotional intimacy? How do you properly respond to your partner’s emotions? Why don’t we understand how powerful disappointment can be in our lives?
In this re-play episode, we are featuring one of the most popular podcasts we have done. Dr. Mark Goulston, psychiatrist and author, joins us on the SuperAge podcast to share his insights on these questions. Dr. Mark Goulston dropped out of medical school twice due to depression. After a school counselor believed in him and gave him another chance, he finished medical school and wanted to pay forward what that counselor gave him. That is exactly what he is doing with his current practice. Dr. Goulston uses his empathetic personality and ability to listen to navigate his patients' issues from marriages to eating disorders to strained parent-child relationships to suicide.
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What you will learn in this episode:
- How empathy and the ability to listen can help strengthen our relationships
- Why some marriages end
- Why strong personalities may have a more difficult time with emotionally intimate relationships, and how to overcome that
- The power of feeling felt vs feeling understood
- How to respond to your partner’s emotions
“Marriages don’t end because we stop loving each other, but because we stop feeling liked by each other.”
“Alpha energy is great for success. It’s not good for closeness. You know, it’s good to have alpha energy. You can build something, you can build a business, you can grow it, you can sell it, you can do whatever, but it’s not that good for emotional intimacy.”
“One of the reasons women will say ‘Don’t give me advice or solutions’ is because when they’re sharing something, they want to just feel less alone in the feeling, they want to feel felt by you, because if they feel felt by you, their oxytocin goes up, their cortisol goes down, their blood flow goes up to their brain, and then they can give themselves the advice they need.”
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Connect with Dr. Mark Goulston:
Website - https://markgoulston.com
Instagram - https://instagram.com/markgoulston?utm_medium=copy_link
Twitter - https://twitter.com/markgoulston?s=11
Read one of Dr. Goulston’s best-selling books - Just Listen
Listen to Dr. Goulston’s audio course Defeating Self-Defeat https://www.himalaya.com/courses/defeating-self-defeat-3129841?partner-from=15652260&utm_source=partner&utm_medium=mark_goulston