The Desire Map | What's Not Working


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By Arsenio Buck. Discovered by Player FM and our community — copyright is owned by the publisher, not Player FM, and audio is streamed directly from their servers. Hit the Subscribe button to track updates in Player FM, or paste the feed URL into other podcast apps.

This is like a weather report, you're just stating the facts like an observer while possessing that observer-mindset.
What’s not working/needs to change . . . because . . .

We have to get real about the negatives in our lives so we can make a plan

to transform them, or at least to consciously not pay attention to them (in which case, some of our so-called problems often tend to disappear).

Next to each thing that you note that isn’t working, consider “WHY that issue is causing you negative stress or pain . . .”

Approach this as an observer. You’re a witness to the story. You are noticing the type of things that aren’t working.

Healthy observations are these: what feels “off,” out of alignment, painful, or incomplete. Unhealthy observations are lists of complaints, taking the position of self-victimization—of something that you feel is happening to you. Blaming. And that includes self-blame and criticism.

Stay in the witness mode, and try to simply notice what in your life is currently causing some suffering or frustration.

Don’t go into fix-it mode yet. We’re just observing.


WHAT’S NOT WORKING . . . I’m dissatisfied or frustrated. Disappointed, agitated, suffering.

BECAUSE . . . (how/why this circumstance creates stress or pain).

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